Social websites are changing our relationships From the way we meet each other to the way we talk to each other.

For someone like Kelly Gale that's a good thing as she recalls talking to her now fiance for the first time online.

"Somehow we were the first two people to contact each other and it just kind of sparked as it was," said Gale.

Gale wasn't so hopeful about trying to find love on the internet.

"I thought, to be honest, I was gonna find a lot of creeps."

But it turned out better than she could have ever hoped.

"When we met up it was just love at first sight, when we met it just went really well from there."

Greg Cyzon is a therapist who studies relationships, and he sees how they're now changing.

"There are ways in which these technologies seem to connect us and certainly make some things quite a bit easier."

Social websites, like Facebook, can let you stay connected with your friends, or can even let you find love. Sometimes what you post there can damage your relationship.

That's what Shane Nichols calls Facebook "home-wrecker dot com" because it ruined his relationship.

"You know, I go out with my buddies, and I see friends that I know that girls have cameras, and they take pictures. They're just my friends. You get tagged, you know, and my girlfriend's like "oh I thought you were out with the fellas, who's this girl, who's that girl?' "

He said his girlfriend would get jealous over pictures and comments that would go up on Facebook..

"It got to a point where it was a constant thing, I feel like she'd wake up and be like 'oh what am i gonna find on his Facebook today?' "

And those little fights eventually led to their break-up.

Cammie Weston is a guidance counselor, so she sees all the drama that comes out of Facebook.

"Somebody misinterprets something that's said on the Internet or posted on their Facebook, and then other people jump on and make comments and it blows up into this big, you know, conflict that they come into school and suddenly somebody's all alone and doesn't have friends that are talking to her," said Weston.

Cyzon said that the Internet is an impersonal extension of a person's true self, and it can be dangerous to creating a self-identity.

"What happens when we create an identity online in a very virtual way, in a disembodied way, where particularly as children, we don't have well-formed identities yet," said Cyzon.

Cyzon said social sites can be used as a tool, but not a substitute for relationships. And that's something that Kelly understands.

"I was mature enough. I'm old enough to know what's right and what's wrong."

And she was able to use social media to stay in touch with her fiance.

"We talk on the phone every night but sometimes that can get kind of old when you just hear the person's voice. It's actually nice to actually see their face."

Her fiance lives in Upstate New York while she's here the Valley, but with Skype they can still see each other: even over the long distance.

"I am so happy, and like I said I'm very particular on who I want to date, and I wasn't just gonna settle for anyone, and I feel like God has brought me a guy who's been very worthy, and I'm very blessed to have met him."

Social media may have it's downside if you're not careful, but for Kelly, who found her love story, social media and an online presence made her relationship work.

Kelly said you should be safe if you meet people online, and don't give out too much personal information.

Weston said parents should always monitor their children's online presence.

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